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Life in Abroad
saving myself from any heart break… 💔
Proud Raised by a Single Mom
people like me here in abroad live not an easy life… contrary to what people back home think about us that we live in a milk and honey life… us here work so hard to survive… we need to work hard to eat and to provide food on our table… while back home, people can survive asking for vegetables, fruits, and even seasonings from their neighborhood and it is a bonus if there are celebrations for you get take home food or accept food delivery if you don’t come to the party… while us here, there are no neighborhood that would be kind enough to give us food for free. we work so hard to maintain our health insurances… no insurance, no doctor’s care…. while people back home can be seen by the doctors for free, you can get medicines for free … us here, even to our last cent, we will be forced to share for any medications that will be given to us… us in abroad don’t get that broad help from family members… we don’t have nice neighbors, mothers, sisters, aunties, uncles to watch over our kids and do some of our house chores… all of us work here that sometimes even if our family would like to lend us a hand, they are tied-up to their work commitments. unlike back home, you are even lucky enough to even hire yayas and house maids… families are all over to help you… us here, we need to earn twice to afford yayas or maids… that means, probably a 24 hour work shift… what i am saying is people here in abroad work so hard to live… we are in a place where-in the fittest survives… sometimes, i hope that those people who ask for money or favor would think that if we refuse to help that is not being greedy… it is not because you see us smiling, or in a nice place, or we were able to buy something that we posted in facebook or in other social networking sites mean we are rich enough… remember, facebook is just an inch of our life that we let you see… most of us are trying our best to be brave enough on some difficulties that we live in… we breakdown, we do sometimes spill our emotions on-line, but that does not mean you know us… if the help, things, or favor that you are asking for are not being given to you by your families or friends who are in a foreign land, please be gentle to them… for you have no idea what battle they have to face everyday in their lives in a country that is not their own… you know what is the sad part?! that those people whom you think will understand are even the first one to condemn you…
my view, i think, people should change their perceptions to those single moms or single parents out there! admit it, you don’t really know the actual story… you just love to magnify your presumptions! it is not because a couple had broken-up or got separated there’s already a third party! oh yeah, that is usually the first reason that you’ll think… but even so, that is only the front part of what happened… behind those closed doors, you don’t even know what had occured… it is not because a woman or a man had been left by their partners, they had been messing-up around… well, that is always the conventional reason perceived by mostly… it could be deeper than that and sometimes, it is a reason or situation that a narrow minded cannot comprehend… there will always be a deeper reason to that. we live in a different world now a days… thanks to that! though we want to keep the traditions and customs we were raised, i am glad to say that people now can strongly make their own choices… no more fear of being separated, no more fear of being judged, no more fear of changes… but for me, no matter what reasons that a couple had separated or a person is now a single parent that should be respected PERIOD! they don’t owe us any explanations for their choices! so don’t judge them easily… either they are wrong or right, they should get the same respect (and the people around them) as how you respect a person that has a whole family… and don’t you think they deserve way more better than that?! he or she can raise a child/children single-handedly which not everybody can do well… to those people who can’t be happy seeing single parents handling things just perfectly, please just back-off! i hope it is not yet too late for these people to learn their manners… for me, i salute those single parents out there for they need to cope-up everyday with challenges that is supposed to be faced by two people yet they still manage things around… it is not easy, but it is all worth it… be happy in whatever things that you do… take care and love yourself, it is the best way you can love and care for your kids and the rest of your loved ones… and stay gorgeous! *proud raised by a single mom!*
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